Yikes! I ain't clingy

In relationships there would be a phase when I could get clingy, not the psycho kinds though! Being clingy in the actual sense is calling or getting in touch with your partner all day long i.e. your life revolves around that particular person.

There have been several occasions I have found it funny being around people who are so clingy in any relationship. Usually, its the women that are clingy in the cases that I have witnessed and may not be necessary in all the cases as I have heard if not witnessed of "clingy men". Yikes! Its a terrible thing to do either for a man or a woman. Get a life guys! Relationships are just a part of our lives and there is so much more to our presence on this planet.

Most of us forget that we are all individuals at the end of the day and the roles we play do not actually define who we are. I have often heard that getting married is like the end of your bachelorhood several times and I so don't believe in that. You may choose to agree or disagree with that. As, I would not be in a relationship that ties me down or is conditional. Relationships should be based on mutual trust and respect to be termed as "successful".

So, individual identity is the key ingredient of any successful relationship. Let us define our relationships and not vice versa. Thanks for reading!

Ray of hope

Sometimes I go into a shell and its really difficult for anyone to understand what is happening. Just when I feel this way, I often look at people that are so full of life despite of the problems they have in life. There is a girl who lives in a small home opposite to my place, she has two brothers and a mom as well as a grandpa to take care of. She would be completing her 9th standard and it is amazing to see her being so dedicated to studying. She would totally make a difference to her life if she continues being so hardworking and dedicated. Before going to school every morning, she visits an apartment complex to perform domestic chores. Then, she gets ready all neatly dressed up to cycle to school. After she gets back from school she completes chores at home and then visits a couple of other homes for completing domestic chores to support her family financially. She is an inspiration for me in certain ways, whenever I feel a low I happen to spot her being so content with life and looking forward to a bright future.

Sometimes, we complain about small issues in life only to realize that we are blessed in so many ways. I am making a promise to myself that from this moment on, I would not ever make a big deal of petty issues in my life. I rarely feel low, most of the times people wonder source of my energy. I love my life a lot more than I ever did before as I have started respecting it :-)

So, if you are reading this " LIVE YOUR LIFE TO THE FULLEST! "

Relationship without expectation

Can you imagine any relationship without expectation? I can't think of a single relationship in life that is not based on some sort of expectation. Be it mother/ father and their child/children, husband and wife, employer and employee etc all of them expect something from the other person. Some of these expectations are explicitly stated and others are expected to be understood as a foundation in any relationship.

It is so strange that we would expect others to follow certain customs or be aware of their boundaries or limitation while playing any role in life. But, when it comes to our convenience we just forget or expect others to let it go. When you cannot "practice what you preach", you should not preach at all or expect anything from anyone.

A person who moves beyond all these expectations would have reached a new level totally. Relationship based on a foundation of expectation would not be complete. So, how could you stop expecting from others but still not be taken for granted?? This is something I keep asking myself every single day in any relationship I choose myself to be a part of or born into. For instance we do not choose the family we are born into or the religion we are born into. These are all decided way before we understand and realize what family or religion or society is all about.

As human beings we are programmed to expect and it would take a lot of work to get out of this state of mind.