Been a long time

Well, its been a long time since I have written a blog post. I really didn't know what to write about so just thought of letting anyone who reads my blog know that I am back :-) more soon!

Yikes! I ain't clingy

In relationships there would be a phase when I could get clingy, not the psycho kinds though! Being clingy in the actual sense is calling or getting in touch with your partner all day long i.e. your life revolves around that particular person.

There have been several occasions I have found it funny being around people who are so clingy in any relationship. Usually, its the women that are clingy in the cases that I have witnessed and may not be necessary in all the cases as I have heard if not witnessed of "clingy men". Yikes! Its a terrible thing to do either for a man or a woman. Get a life guys! Relationships are just a part of our lives and there is so much more to our presence on this planet.

Most of us forget that we are all individuals at the end of the day and the roles we play do not actually define who we are. I have often heard that getting married is like the end of your bachelorhood several times and I so don't believe in that. You may choose to agree or disagree with that. As, I would not be in a relationship that ties me down or is conditional. Relationships should be based on mutual trust and respect to be termed as "successful".

So, individual identity is the key ingredient of any successful relationship. Let us define our relationships and not vice versa. Thanks for reading!

Ray of hope

Sometimes I go into a shell and its really difficult for anyone to understand what is happening. Just when I feel this way, I often look at people that are so full of life despite of the problems they have in life. There is a girl who lives in a small home opposite to my place, she has two brothers and a mom as well as a grandpa to take care of. She would be completing her 9th standard and it is amazing to see her being so dedicated to studying. She would totally make a difference to her life if she continues being so hardworking and dedicated. Before going to school every morning, she visits an apartment complex to perform domestic chores. Then, she gets ready all neatly dressed up to cycle to school. After she gets back from school she completes chores at home and then visits a couple of other homes for completing domestic chores to support her family financially. She is an inspiration for me in certain ways, whenever I feel a low I happen to spot her being so content with life and looking forward to a bright future.

Sometimes, we complain about small issues in life only to realize that we are blessed in so many ways. I am making a promise to myself that from this moment on, I would not ever make a big deal of petty issues in my life. I rarely feel low, most of the times people wonder source of my energy. I love my life a lot more than I ever did before as I have started respecting it :-)

So, if you are reading this " LIVE YOUR LIFE TO THE FULLEST! "

Relationship without expectation

Can you imagine any relationship without expectation? I can't think of a single relationship in life that is not based on some sort of expectation. Be it mother/ father and their child/children, husband and wife, employer and employee etc all of them expect something from the other person. Some of these expectations are explicitly stated and others are expected to be understood as a foundation in any relationship.

It is so strange that we would expect others to follow certain customs or be aware of their boundaries or limitation while playing any role in life. But, when it comes to our convenience we just forget or expect others to let it go. When you cannot "practice what you preach", you should not preach at all or expect anything from anyone.

A person who moves beyond all these expectations would have reached a new level totally. Relationship based on a foundation of expectation would not be complete. So, how could you stop expecting from others but still not be taken for granted?? This is something I keep asking myself every single day in any relationship I choose myself to be a part of or born into. For instance we do not choose the family we are born into or the religion we are born into. These are all decided way before we understand and realize what family or religion or society is all about.

As human beings we are programmed to expect and it would take a lot of work to get out of this state of mind.

Sculpted body

Don't ask me how I thought of writing this today :-) I have put on quite a few pounds and need to start doing something about it. It is uncomfortable to wear anything when you seemed to have put on 5-6 kgs. As if it wasn't necessary that I had a few extra pounds myself :-) Most of us hate exercising or being fit. The idea of going to a gym irks me so I cant imagine actually signing up for one. I used to go for my brisk walks but that has also been discontinued since I started working after a really long time and getting used to this lifestyle. What an excuse?? LOL So, I was wondering whats with women and their size zero or whatever. How can they be that way? They look like they may die any moment. Recently, heard our own size zero queen said that she is happy to have gotten back to her usual self. Thank God! I'm glad she realized that she looks much better not being a size zero :-)

The best possible thing to do is to go back thousands of years where people used to not wear anything. It takes a lot to be naked and if at all we have to do that in today's world then there are two things that come to my mind, that is - everyone would be forced to maintain a superfit body cause they cant be showcasing bulges or extra curves LOL. Another funny thing is that men folk would be cursing themselves when they are turned on LOLzzzzz. That would be the best thing that could probably happen to our men folk. I am giggling while writing this.

Anyways, this wasn't the reason I wanted to write this post, not totally ;-) Well, its high time I put my fitness plan into place and more than anything implement the same. So that I don't feel lethargic on a few days. Take care and thanks for reading!

Do leave your comments as that would help me write a lot about other interesting things :-)

Hey gal the other woman isn't your enemy :-)

I love dedicating my posts to the people who inspired me to write about a certain subject :-) This blog post goes out to all the women who I've met in my life and mostly on the work front and a few acquaintances or friends if I may say so ;-) I've always seen women getting crazy usually due to PMS and that's acceptable but being in that state permanently is hazardous for only "YOU".

Every other woman whether she appears happy or enthusiastic in life has loads of crap to deal with. Its not only you that is dealing with issues in life. Life is a bitch and its the same for everyone and God gives each of us our share of joy as well as sorrow. And our lives are what we've made of them so I really don't understand that reason behind judging another woman based on her past or her habits or amazingly positive outlook to life.

I have come across so many women who don't understand or have never heard of the term "soul sisters". Its not necessary that every other woman you meet could be your soul sis but don't bite her head off just because you have issues with your life. Its your life and frankly I don't care about it if I am not bothered by it :-) Call me a bitch or whatever, I don't care. I am what I am and frankly I am here to build a fantastic career for myself and have a excellent personal life.

Please understand that its not my problem that you cant sort out things in your life. You choose your relationships, children, job etc etc

So stop biting my head off and first ask yourself "why you are so freaking frustrated with yourself, that you show it to the next positive woman who intimidates you". Take a hike woman! I don't care a shit for people with bad attitude and narrow mindedness.

Soulmate

All of us look or rather most of us look for soul mates in our lives and in the process we meet up with several people intentionally or otherwise. Having a soul mate is like having a friend for life and this soul mate is usually your partner for life. It is very difficult to be yourself completely or rather in all situations so it would be a lot more harder to identify the soul mate you are looking for.

Many relationships start with false expectations as people are not being themselves. They are in a mode of pleasing the other person and this is seriously a red alert! I have experienced as well as heard others talk about relationships which have changed drastically and that is really scary. I do agree that once you stay together all the likes and dislikes are a lot more evident. However, that doesn't stop us from being ourselves when we are dating someone. If you are doing that then you are headed for some serious trouble for yourself especially.

Most people go looking after a soul mate subconsciously and people usually are the in extreme zone i.e. either too open minded or completely not ready for someone. The idea is to take each day as it comes along with people and events, than to fight it. Through the normal course of these days you would realize that being with the ideal person is more important than just living for others. Its your life! So, take charge of it, otherwise you will repent.

I am reminded of the song "Say" from the movie Bucket List and song by "John Mayer". This song so beautifully describes that we need to address our issues then and there by communicating or speaking about things that are actually bothering us. Keeping our feelings bottled up is like a volcano erupting when its gets too much! So, we wouldnt want that to happen to us or anyone else. So "say what you need to say".