Been a long time

Well, its been a long time since I have written a blog post. I really didn't know what to write about so just thought of letting anyone who reads my blog know that I am back :-) more soon!

Yikes! I ain't clingy

In relationships there would be a phase when I could get clingy, not the psycho kinds though! Being clingy in the actual sense is calling or getting in touch with your partner all day long i.e. your life revolves around that particular person.

There have been several occasions I have found it funny being around people who are so clingy in any relationship. Usually, its the women that are clingy in the cases that I have witnessed and may not be necessary in all the cases as I have heard if not witnessed of "clingy men". Yikes! Its a terrible thing to do either for a man or a woman. Get a life guys! Relationships are just a part of our lives and there is so much more to our presence on this planet.

Most of us forget that we are all individuals at the end of the day and the roles we play do not actually define who we are. I have often heard that getting married is like the end of your bachelorhood several times and I so don't believe in that. You may choose to agree or disagree with that. As, I would not be in a relationship that ties me down or is conditional. Relationships should be based on mutual trust and respect to be termed as "successful".

So, individual identity is the key ingredient of any successful relationship. Let us define our relationships and not vice versa. Thanks for reading!

Ray of hope

Sometimes I go into a shell and its really difficult for anyone to understand what is happening. Just when I feel this way, I often look at people that are so full of life despite of the problems they have in life. There is a girl who lives in a small home opposite to my place, she has two brothers and a mom as well as a grandpa to take care of. She would be completing her 9th standard and it is amazing to see her being so dedicated to studying. She would totally make a difference to her life if she continues being so hardworking and dedicated. Before going to school every morning, she visits an apartment complex to perform domestic chores. Then, she gets ready all neatly dressed up to cycle to school. After she gets back from school she completes chores at home and then visits a couple of other homes for completing domestic chores to support her family financially. She is an inspiration for me in certain ways, whenever I feel a low I happen to spot her being so content with life and looking forward to a bright future.

Sometimes, we complain about small issues in life only to realize that we are blessed in so many ways. I am making a promise to myself that from this moment on, I would not ever make a big deal of petty issues in my life. I rarely feel low, most of the times people wonder source of my energy. I love my life a lot more than I ever did before as I have started respecting it :-)

So, if you are reading this " LIVE YOUR LIFE TO THE FULLEST! "

Relationship without expectation

Can you imagine any relationship without expectation? I can't think of a single relationship in life that is not based on some sort of expectation. Be it mother/ father and their child/children, husband and wife, employer and employee etc all of them expect something from the other person. Some of these expectations are explicitly stated and others are expected to be understood as a foundation in any relationship.

It is so strange that we would expect others to follow certain customs or be aware of their boundaries or limitation while playing any role in life. But, when it comes to our convenience we just forget or expect others to let it go. When you cannot "practice what you preach", you should not preach at all or expect anything from anyone.

A person who moves beyond all these expectations would have reached a new level totally. Relationship based on a foundation of expectation would not be complete. So, how could you stop expecting from others but still not be taken for granted?? This is something I keep asking myself every single day in any relationship I choose myself to be a part of or born into. For instance we do not choose the family we are born into or the religion we are born into. These are all decided way before we understand and realize what family or religion or society is all about.

As human beings we are programmed to expect and it would take a lot of work to get out of this state of mind.

Sculpted body

Don't ask me how I thought of writing this today :-) I have put on quite a few pounds and need to start doing something about it. It is uncomfortable to wear anything when you seemed to have put on 5-6 kgs. As if it wasn't necessary that I had a few extra pounds myself :-) Most of us hate exercising or being fit. The idea of going to a gym irks me so I cant imagine actually signing up for one. I used to go for my brisk walks but that has also been discontinued since I started working after a really long time and getting used to this lifestyle. What an excuse?? LOL So, I was wondering whats with women and their size zero or whatever. How can they be that way? They look like they may die any moment. Recently, heard our own size zero queen said that she is happy to have gotten back to her usual self. Thank God! I'm glad she realized that she looks much better not being a size zero :-)

The best possible thing to do is to go back thousands of years where people used to not wear anything. It takes a lot to be naked and if at all we have to do that in today's world then there are two things that come to my mind, that is - everyone would be forced to maintain a superfit body cause they cant be showcasing bulges or extra curves LOL. Another funny thing is that men folk would be cursing themselves when they are turned on LOLzzzzz. That would be the best thing that could probably happen to our men folk. I am giggling while writing this.

Anyways, this wasn't the reason I wanted to write this post, not totally ;-) Well, its high time I put my fitness plan into place and more than anything implement the same. So that I don't feel lethargic on a few days. Take care and thanks for reading!

Do leave your comments as that would help me write a lot about other interesting things :-)

Hey gal the other woman isn't your enemy :-)

I love dedicating my posts to the people who inspired me to write about a certain subject :-) This blog post goes out to all the women who I've met in my life and mostly on the work front and a few acquaintances or friends if I may say so ;-) I've always seen women getting crazy usually due to PMS and that's acceptable but being in that state permanently is hazardous for only "YOU".

Every other woman whether she appears happy or enthusiastic in life has loads of crap to deal with. Its not only you that is dealing with issues in life. Life is a bitch and its the same for everyone and God gives each of us our share of joy as well as sorrow. And our lives are what we've made of them so I really don't understand that reason behind judging another woman based on her past or her habits or amazingly positive outlook to life.

I have come across so many women who don't understand or have never heard of the term "soul sisters". Its not necessary that every other woman you meet could be your soul sis but don't bite her head off just because you have issues with your life. Its your life and frankly I don't care about it if I am not bothered by it :-) Call me a bitch or whatever, I don't care. I am what I am and frankly I am here to build a fantastic career for myself and have a excellent personal life.

Please understand that its not my problem that you cant sort out things in your life. You choose your relationships, children, job etc etc

So stop biting my head off and first ask yourself "why you are so freaking frustrated with yourself, that you show it to the next positive woman who intimidates you". Take a hike woman! I don't care a shit for people with bad attitude and narrow mindedness.

Soulmate

All of us look or rather most of us look for soul mates in our lives and in the process we meet up with several people intentionally or otherwise. Having a soul mate is like having a friend for life and this soul mate is usually your partner for life. It is very difficult to be yourself completely or rather in all situations so it would be a lot more harder to identify the soul mate you are looking for.

Many relationships start with false expectations as people are not being themselves. They are in a mode of pleasing the other person and this is seriously a red alert! I have experienced as well as heard others talk about relationships which have changed drastically and that is really scary. I do agree that once you stay together all the likes and dislikes are a lot more evident. However, that doesn't stop us from being ourselves when we are dating someone. If you are doing that then you are headed for some serious trouble for yourself especially.

Most people go looking after a soul mate subconsciously and people usually are the in extreme zone i.e. either too open minded or completely not ready for someone. The idea is to take each day as it comes along with people and events, than to fight it. Through the normal course of these days you would realize that being with the ideal person is more important than just living for others. Its your life! So, take charge of it, otherwise you will repent.

I am reminded of the song "Say" from the movie Bucket List and song by "John Mayer". This song so beautifully describes that we need to address our issues then and there by communicating or speaking about things that are actually bothering us. Keeping our feelings bottled up is like a volcano erupting when its gets too much! So, we wouldnt want that to happen to us or anyone else. So "say what you need to say".

Love and compassion - Destiny??

Love is the thing that makes a lot of sense and compassion is another. I cant imagine the world without love and compassion, it would be so void. There are people who lead their lives without love and/ or compassion and I wonder if they are actually living or just surviving.

Another thing I keep hearing from people is that it is our fate that we are not loved or don't find someone whom we could love and express our emotions to. Thinking of which makes me wonder if we make our lives or wait for someone to come along to make it happen for us. If we wait then God save us, cause he/ she would only help us if we help ourselves.

Through my own experience and seeing other lead their lives accepting situations take over them. Challenging aspect is to never let anyone or any event take over your life and understand that life goes on! And when life goes on and people are so involved in their own lives why don't you also ensure to make your future and present as wonderful as possible. I strongly believe that no one can make you feel like shit by spreading rumours or being abusive. All the women taking abuse of any form in your life please stop doing that to yourself. No one can make you feel like shit unless you put a stop to it so remember that and learn to love yourself first. Watch others start to fall in love with you and see the real you.

Please don't be someone else because of the so called "society" as they weren't there with you when you fell but only your family and real friends were. So, care for them and show them love, others are merely existing for you and let it be as every day people have opinions about something or someone. So chill and believe in yourself, remember you have one life that is beautiful. Lets make our lives beautiful and worth living not merely existing. Lets take a pledge today to be women we want to be and not live by others expectations.

Spending time with children

My weekend this time around was really interesting and something that I was looking forward to. Main reason being I would be spending good 4 hours on two days with children. I wasn't even sure the distance I had to travel cause the children were staying near Bannerghatta, Bangalore. I thought it would be a good idea to take my car but since folks at home needed it I had to opt for an auto rickshaw. It was another totally adventurous ride and dedicating another post to it wouldn't be a bad idea ;-)

Thanks to my brilliant idea of partying on Friday night, I wasn't myself completely with the children. I hadn't gotten enough sleep as well and I had this nagging headache as I haven't had vodka for like ages. I really don't enjoy drinking these days even in a social scenario and if I would feel like it would be either wine or in on warm days a beer. Yeah! I know you don't hear many women enjoying beer :-) Looks like I'm deviating here and I need to pen down my experience with the children.

I was amazed at their confidence and the power to grasp anything I was talking to them about. They were excellent in dumb charades even though it was actually the first time they were playing it. I enjoyed being a kid amongst them as I always do but hold back myself in most situations, especially with people who I meet for the first time :-)

They are good at English as a language and Math as far as I could infer. Excellent at communicating as well as expressing themselves. I was really happy to see that the people who have started this school are serious about their work. Even the facility is well maintained and ideal for any child to learn and grow. Each of them coming from various villages across India, mostly South India. Every child has a story which deprived them of the right to be educated and found a path to this school through their own interest as well as the administrators of the foundation.

Today, I was involved in bringing two girls along with their mother who happens to be a heart patient to the school from the main road. This school or rather a home is in the interiors and it was terribly warm today. I was asked by our fellow volunteer if we could get them to this place from where they got off a bus. It was amazing to me for two reasons, one is that I recently started driving after a long break and secondly I was happy to be of some use as I knew to drive. I always known that being able to drive around is a necessity in such times as well as being able to drive your folks around is another happy moment for anyone. Especially moms are the happiest people seeing their kids being self dependent in all respects and not only financially. Emotional Independence is the best thing that could happen to anyone and I have finally found myself through this.

I wasn't keeping too well today and was in two minds to go back to spend time with the children. Then, something in me told me that I could do it and since I had committed myself to this, I just felt responsible for any decision I would make. I know that since this was the first time I actually volunteered for something that made a change to others as well as my life, I should give myself completely without backing out due to any reason.

I loved my weekend and 4 hours well spent and probably the best thing I have done in my life. I would continue to find ways to enrich others lives with my exposure as well as make my life worth living.

Growing up is the best that has happened .....

Every time I think of my birthday coming up I think about entering 30's and for the first time in my life I want to really celebrate the day I was born. Some events in our lives really change our perspective about life and it surely has made me value my life a lot!

I would love to travel as much as possible and read, write, work with children, take a theatre workshop and also play a musical instrument either sitar or guitar. Wow, this year is really going to be exciting since I have decided and career with these things would take most of my time and focus.

Life truly is beautiful and we can make it a lot more interesting as well as to look forward to every single day we are on this planet!

That's what friends are for

I had a great time catching up with my really long time friends. I love them both a lot and if you actually met the three of us you would wonder how we are such good friends. We are totally different personalities. We have been friends for ages and have seen each other through ups and downs.

Best part is that even though we meet rarely there is no awkwardness. We can talk to each other about anything and still not worry that the other person would judge us. Of course as good friends you will only get honest opinions from them and that's what good friends are for. I have been the most wildest of the three which isn't a surprise because I'm the most outgoing types of the three of us. We have good time talking about our experiences and are also astonished at the change in each of our lives.

We've been friends since school and shall always be :-) I love you both Mighty and Zans!

Does your heart rule your mind?

Most often than not your heart tells you the truth but that may or may not be practical. But that really doesn't matter when the decisions taken have to be sincere. I agree that it is not possible to please everyone and by taking certain decisions you would end up hurting someone. However, if it is from your heart then one day or the other, people who care for you would understand.

At the same time mind keeps a tab on your heart so that you don't go around hurting others as well as yourself. For me heart ruling the mind hasn't worked too well cause it just doesn't work that way. And if you want to know that you are headed in the right direction listen to your heart and give time before you make your decision. There is no right or wrong decision as no one knows what tomorrow holds for each of us or probably even the next second. Life is so unpredictable that it is better to live each moment to its fullest and leave your decision to time. I'm sure that you would get a convincing reply to your question/s.

Take care and have a grt week! Thanks for reading :-)

Lessons I learnt....

Life has been really interesting and shall always be to me. There have been situations in my life which has made me a more patient and understanding person. I have realized my potential and have amazed myself this time around. Others around me also see me as a more calm and composed person as by nature I'm the aggressive as well as impulsive type.

Taking things as they come and living for the moment is the most important lesson I have learnt. It is truly easy to talk about rather than practising it. Another thing that I have learnt is to address issues then and there without fearing that I would be hurting someone. Also realized that anything could be addressed in a easy and simple manner if we use our mind logically rather than getting emotional. I have given myself plenty of quality time and see that it is actually turning out to be quite beneficial in every decision I need to make.

Life is so much better than I ever thought it was and I really love myself so I wouldn't be doing anything in an impulsive momentum which would hurt my family. I love them !

So believe in thinking positive :-)

Many instances in life really prove that thinking positively really makes a huge difference to our lives. It is easier than done during tough times to think about anything good or look forward to our lives. I strongly believe that if you haven't harmed anyone actively or passively, you will get your due some day. Life has been really interesting for me and if there is a word to describe it as more than beautiful I would :-)

Taking each day as it comes has really helped me understand myself better and deal with the most unexpected events in my life. For me it is difficult to think bad about anyone no matter how much sorrow they have brought into my life and people that I love. I truly believe that you will get your due whether it is good or bad and strongly believe in law of karma. I feel that as long as you give your best and all to help anyone in need without being asked you are making a big difference to your own life. Such situations give you a better perspective about life which isn't only about you i.e. career, relationships, money, wealth, success etc

We often get bogged down when we fall on our face but least do we realize that there is a good reason behind the fall. Sometimes in our lives we take decisions too impulsively and it really doesn't matter even if it was in the best interest of all the people you love or care about. These fall/s in your life have such valuable lessons and for the ones who lead a completely cautious life this would not make sense. Sometimes in life it is worth taking a chance and there is no guarantee that being smart would help you save your face all the time. From others perspective there would always be better way of handling any given situation. Least do they realize unless they were in a similar situation. Like I always say " Easier said than done"!

I'm glad I decided to take certain decisions impulsively because without those events in my life I would not have been able to discover myself. And, I'm loving each moment I realize certain things about myself which were waiting to be discovered. I'm sure that recognizing and making my spirit really happy has made a lot of difference to my life and others around me. I love my life!

Thanks for reading & hope you enjoyed reading this post :-)

Someday when I'm awfully low ....

I just love this song cause it brings a smile to my face every time I listen to it. Oops! the song is "The way you look tonight" by Frank Sinatra. It is one of my favorite songs coz I really liked it in "My Best Friends Wedding" which starred Julia Roberts! She is am amazing actor and love watching her movies.

I love having few good friends, hehehe it sounds like "a few good men". I don't know why i thought of that now :-) Well, through my blogs you would sense that I need to get myself a job cause I'm just loosing it at the moment especially. It is very difficult when you become independent to ask anyone for money. Parents are always there for you and it is only them you think of approaching in difficult times.

Sometimes in life you have an option of walking down the path which you've always wanted to and want the most. And when such an opportunity presents itself who would want to let it go. Since I want to move into the area of teaching children, I would need to get myself qualified for that. And, need to get a part time job which would obviously help me till such a time I am officially qualified. I would love to pursue my career as an integral part of my life and so I need to really get into a field I'm passionate about. I just cant imagine otherwise :-)

Loads to do and looking forward to what this year has in store for me :-)

Take care and thanks for reading!

Smile people life isnt that bad

Whenever I step outside home I realize how cynical the world has become. Everyone is so self involved that they rarely realize that there are other people around them. Most of them with frowns on their face off to work or school or college or morning walk.

I guess at some point in time we all forget that life isn't as bad as we perceive it. I'm sure everyone has our share of ups and downs in life and no one's life is perfect. If you feel that someone looks like they are leading a perfect life, think again :-)

Every person is different and so is the way we think. I agree that you cant be yourself in all the given situations but there is no harm in being yourself. How long are you going to be that person trying to keep everyone happy and within you are unhappy? Believe me sooner or later they will showcase this unhappiness in their life around them and ruin everything.

Compassion is such an important thing in life and so is living life to the fullest every moment. And believe me we all know to lead our lives in the most artistic possible way and we don't have to go looking for that anywhere. Snap out of any negative mood or phase that you maybe in cause nothing is permanent.

Smile is the most wonderful expression to connect to anyone. Whenever I see a kid or an animal it makes me smile. But looking at the stressful lives people are leading its scary. People find it hard to laugh about the silliest things in life and take life way to seriously. I do know that if you got to live in a society you would have certain dos and donts'. But come on people, we are the ones who made these rules and change it according to our convenience. So, why not change it to enrich our lives.

Life is really beautiful and each moment there is so much to learn and explore. Start by making a list of things you would want to do and reassess it every time. And this list shouldn't contain of our goals with respect to our careers or personal lives. For a change think about doing something nice for someone and that is "Smile".

The world would definitely need more smiles than ever now with so much negativity everywhere. So SMILE!!!!

Black or White - What's Grey??

Inspired by Lycra I write this post :-) Every person is do different and for me there is no grey area as it is either black or white for me. I know that leading one's life this way is easier said than done but no one told you that life is a bed of roses. Sweetheart, if you want the rose you need to accept the thorns as well.

Similarly, when we meet anyone for the first time you know whether or not you can get along with that person. There is a small voice inside of you which tells you everything and asking too many people can only leave you in a confused state of mind. Well, I personally haven't paid much attention to this voice inside of me while taking some really important decisions in my life. And, leading a reckless lifestyle in terms of my spirit has only made me understand myself better. When we understand ourselves better we know what we want out of life and so we will tend to attract those things into our lives miraculously. Whether it is regarding any decisions you have to make about your career, life partner, money or goals.

No one knows our potential more than we do and that's the advantage of knowing oneself completely. If you can't spend some quality time with yourself and always around people or occupied with some activity or the other, you are truly missing a lot in life. If you like being with yourself then you are taking a giant step in getting to know yourself.

There have been instances where others have identified certain traits in me which would help me in my career or personal life and I myself wasn't aware of those characteristics. I can completely relate to every event in my life now and see so clearly now. If I probably hadn't taken those decisions those events wouldn't have been a part of my life and I wouldn't be enjoying my life to the fullest now :-)

So, for me its either black or white and I really don't believe in anything grey. So, this makes life so simple for me and I live each moment instead of getting stressed with what the next moment holds for me.

Have a nice day and thank you for reading!

Easier said than done

Every single time anyone goes through a broken relationship it takes a lot to not get bitter and have an open mind towards anyone who might enter your life. That's the reason I said its easier said than done :-)

Most of us become so cautious that we do not have an open mind when it comes to staying happy in life. Everyone deserves to be happy and those who say that they'd rather be single than get hurt will have to ask themselves this question again. We build a wall around ourselves so that we don't go down that road again.

Life is really beautiful and with time we all heal and start thinking positively about relationships. If it is not possible how could one "love like you've never been hurt before". Since every person is different so is every relationship. So, if we are stuck up with experiences from the past then we will ruin our present. So, think about it and give yourself time whenever your heart is broken and begin with a small step by being positive.

When God closes a door, he opens a window!

Most of the times in our lives we never realize the reason behind going through the tough phases. But when you look back you realize that these are the times that define you as an individual.

We can either sulk about things that have happened and not move on or just take this as a new opportunity. It surely is easier said than done but believe you can actually move on. And, if you do decide to move on, forgive whoever has hurt you or whatever has happened. We may not be able to forget things but we can surely understand life much better.

Once you move on please make sure you are not bitter. If you remain bitter after a going through a rough patch in your life then you are missing out a lot in your life. Because you will carry that bitterness to all the aspects of your life. And once you do that you will feel negative about everything around you. I don't have to say anything much after this cause you know the outcome of being negative :-)

We all have one life and need to live it to the fullest! So, start living from this moment on and enjoy everything in your life.

Thanks for reading!

So beautiful, took another picture of it